Relationship mis•com•mu•ni•ca•tion

In times of relationship difficulties, I often turn to my friends and life mentors. I had a talk with my brother who has been together for eighteen years with his Dutch wife. They are a great couple…so much in love..so passionate for each other. They would never have communication problems, I thought.“Relationships have ups and downs, it is a lot of hard work,” he said. That may explain why so many couples break up. He said the key was that no matter what they made their relationship their priority. So in all of their decisions (work, life, jobs, money) their relationship was part of the equation. Simple yet sensible...

Do you ever wonder why you can have such great communication with friends but not boyfriends? Why is it that your friends get you? Why is it that they can just read you…? Why is that if a friend says that they are too busy to see you..you do not worry. But if your boyfriend says he needs time alone…it somehow translates into “I want to break up with you.”

“Gee knows me too well. She and I have no secrets."You are such a freaking victim and drama queen,” she said. Normally I’d take such comments very personally and I would be upset. I take everything personal…even if people say not to take it personal. Insecure? Yes…. But Gee, she was correct. I was like the poor maid in a Latin American soap opera. I was the Betty in Ugly Betty. I want everyone to feel sorry for me!!! The Jews may have guilt cornered but no one does the poor martyr/poor me girl like the Latinos!

My behaviour was having destructive implications on my relationship. All good things require effort.I still have to work hard at it, 2 years down the track. Worth it though :-)Well the path of true love never did run smooth after all :)

Um, I think that we're different with different people. My boyfriend acts very differently when he's with his friends and I'm sure talks to them about things that he'd rather not talk to me about. I don't mind, it's nothing for me to be jealous about. After all, I talk to my friends in a way that I wouldn't talk to my boyfriend. Each person in your life has a different role and the role of a friend is probably easier and less demanding than that of a sexual partner, lover etc.

PrettySweetBoy