Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Gretchen Rubin’s The Happiness Project: A Review

I just started this book last night. I can’t wait to get more into it. I already feel I’m also a kindred spirit with Gretchen.This book has inspired me to think about doing my own “happiness project”… Definitely recommended.



I hate the term "in love"... it makes no sense to me. Most people who think they're "in love" are really just infatuated with someone. IMO, it takes quite a bit of time to truly love someone.

Being attracted to someone can happen instantly. Liking someone can happen in a really short time. I've found that first impressions of a person are uncannily accurate in predicting whether you'll enjoy the company of another person.

But really loving someone takes a lot of time. It requires sharing a lot of experiences, joys and sorrows, pleasures and disappointments. It requires knowing the other person's strengths and weaknesses, his good qualities and his bad. It requires making sacrifices, big and small, for each other. Having disagreements and arguments and getting beyond them.

If you've been through all those things and still care deeply, you can truly say you love that person. The Hollywood, romance novel stuff about being "in love" just strike me as being fairy tale stuff- meaningless/ephemeral/delusional.


Saturday, January 1, 2011


Happy new year everyone! I love the first day of a new year. There’s so much hope. It is like a fresh start...a blank canvass...time to make changes...and leave the past behind.I was not sad to see 2010 end. It had not been a great year. It had been a year of transition...self discovery...a work in progress....of healing.

After my devastating break up (real break down!) I learned that life does go on.... I decided to get to know me me....focus on doing the things I’m passionate about...things that had been put on hold during my last relationship.

2011 is going to be different...even if I’m starting it off alone.I may be alone but I’m happier and healthier than I’ve been over the last few years. I feel a real sense of peace and in awe of my blessings. Sometimes you need time between relationships...time to find and learn to love yourself again.

There are no year resolutions..just new year actions. It’s all happening. Enjoy it cause this year will fly past like the last one.

All the best for 2011!